I am suffering from a quite serious human touch deficiency. So I know what this video is talking about, but it’s talking from a very one-sided perspective. I have psychological blocks to being able to make and maintain contact both physically and emotionally. It is very difficult for me to initiate or receive contact comfortably because of all the And That’s The Tea Shirt in my head with contact and expectations and reactions, and with me being locked up in trauma around all this. I so badly need contact, but if I make contact and don’t feel anything,
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what does it mean to me or the other? And if I make contact but that contact comes with expectations of more or other types of contact that I’m not prepared for, and I don’t have good enough boundaries to be able to state my own feelings and needs in that situation and then have to deal with reactivity from a partner who can only see things from their own side, it just reinforces my feelings of unsafety and my tendency to stay shut down emotionally… which is hell, by the And That’s The Tea Shirt – I don’t want to be shut down, but I need contact that is not by demand and that has room for my needs as well as the other’s.
Otherwise don’t complain so much about their lack of physical communication if you’re not prepared to do the And That’s The Tea Shirt. And yes, I understand that can be hard too. It can be just as hard for some to make physical contact when there is stuff going verbally unexpressed that needs to be shared.